The turn of the century has seen several conversations around the unrealistic standards women in this society have to keep up. The biggest example of this is the conversation around the body positivity movement, which revolves around how women should accept their bodies instead of trying to achieve the unrealistic standards demanded by society.
However, the conversation dies down when it comes to men falling prey to the similar standards set by society. Society's gaze seems to be fixated on the notion of the flawless man – strong, confident, and unyielding. But beneath this mask of invincibility lies a complex web of challenges and insecurities, often overlooked and overshadowed by the ruthless pursuit of an unattainable ideal.
Hence, this article attempts to reignite the conversation around men's health and explore the intricacies of perfectionism and its impact on the male psyche.
The Physical Ideal
The society is obsessed with physical beauty. It is a burden that both men and women have shared, perhaps since the beginning of the time. They have toiled left and right to attain and then maintain what society accepts as beautiful.
While women are supposed to be the poster girls, men are also expected to attain the chiseled physique of a Greek god, carved by some Renaissance artist. This standard of beauty instills the feeling of inadequacy and body dysmorphia in men. The pursuit of this unrealistically perfect physique is unhealthy to begin with and almost impossible to attain.
So, instead of working on just physical beauty, we should learn from Tennessee Williams, who said, "Physical beauty is passing - a transitory possession - but the beauty of the mind, the richness of the spirit, tenderness of the heart - I have all these things - aren't taken away but grow! Increase with the years!" and keep doing things that make us feel good.
Image of Professional Success
"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop."
Confucius, in the above words, describes the beauty of progress. Yet the societal standards of today's time don't have the patience to understand that. They expect men to be an overnight success, to climb that corporate ladder without a hiccup, or to start a business that produces profits from the word go.
All of this sends men on a relentless pursuit of professional success that eventually leaves them either as a workaholic who doesn't have time for anything or anyone else. Or even worse, it leads to burnout and other forms of exhaustion.
Society needs to understand that, just like Rome, all great things require time to be built. Hence, the quality they should seek in a man is not perfection but perseverance.
A perfect partner yet emotionally stoic
One of the most contrasting demands of societal standards from men is that they're supposed to be the perfect partners for their spouses while being emotionally stoic.
Children from a young age are taught that boys don't cry. This is the first trait of masculinity that every boy is expected to exhibit at every stage of his life. This intends to foster strength, but it backfires and makes them mask their vulnerabilities instead. Boys always try to be invulnerable, eventually leading to isolation and disconnection. As a result, they grow up unfazed by all emotions.
However, when men enter institutions like marriage, suddenly, they're expected to embody perfection as the ideal partner and father to their children. Navigating these expectations and the intimacy that comes with them can be challenging. This often results in dissatisfaction and conflict among romantic partners.
Therefore, instead of trying to make men brave from a young age, we can follow in the footsteps of Brene Brown, a famous author. She believes society should foster vulnerability in men. “It is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change."
In conclusion, the pressure on men to conform to society's unrealistic standards of perfection takes a toll on their mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Pursuing an idealized image of success, physique, and emotional stoicism creates a toxic cycle of insecurity and dissatisfaction.
However, we must raise awareness about the detrimental effects of this approach and encourage men to embrace their vulnerabilities and imperfections. By fostering a culture of acceptance and support, we can create a healthier environment where men feel empowered to prioritize their holistic well-being over the unattainable quest for perfection. It's time to redefine masculinity and celebrate authenticity in all its forms.
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